A parent’s worst nightmare is getting in a time crunch and asking their child to do something and then being ignored or argued with.
Here is a simple technique that helps your child understand, remember, and actually DO what they need to do without reminders.
Sounds like magic right?
It’s actually a simple tool from ADDitude Magazine, called a “think-through”. A think-through maximizes the likelihood of your child cooperating by fixing the expectation or rule firmly in their long term memory. When you use a think-through, it is not you but your child who is saying what they have to do. That shift has a powerful, positive impact on their memory and on their willingness to do it.
Here are the basic steps of doing a think-through:
- Choose a Neutral Time– Never try to do a think-through right after something has gone wrong. You will be annoyed instead of calm and your child will be resentful. A neutral time is when neither of you are in a hurry nor annoyed.
- Ask, Don´t Tell– Ask your child several leading questions about the behavior you want to see more of. Phrase your questions so they cannot be answered with a yes or no.
- Your Child Answers In Detail– Your child tells you what they should do in as many details as possible. The more details the better, it will stick in their memory so ask several follow up questions to get them to expand their answers. The only time you switch form asking to telling is when your child´s answer is incomplete or inaccurate. In that case, clarify what you mean, and ask some more questions, until you are sure your child understands the rule or routine.
For more tips like this visit ADDitudemag.com/resource-centers/index.html
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